For most children, their father is the first man in their life and plays a crucial role in their upbringing. Unfortunately, many men suffer from narcissism, which can make their children’s upbringing difficult. In this article, we will look at how to handle a narcissistic father.
What are the characteristics of a narcissistic father?
A narcissistic father is often extremely self-centered and has an inflated ego. He can be very controlling and manipulative, and he always expects things to go his way. He can be incredibly critical and often has a negative attitude towards life. He also tends to cheat and can be very violent.
As a child of a narcissistic mother or father, you often develop self-esteem issues and may also develop some dysfunctional traits that you have to work on as an adult.
How can you handle a narcissistic father?
It is very difficult to handle a narcissistic father, but there are some things you can do to make it easier. Fortunately, most of us did not grow up with a self-centered parent, but it can be a big challenge to navigate this type of relationship. Here are some tips on how to handle a narcissistic father:
1. Understand the root of his behavior
Narcissism is a psychological dysfunction that causes an excessive focus on oneself. Narcissists often feel better than others and need constant validation. They may have difficulty seeing others’ needs and can be very controlling. If you understand where your father’s sick areas are, you can better protect yourself from them. Often, children of narcissistic parents will take on guilt and shame when their parents share them, even as adults.
2. Set boundaries
It’s important to set boundaries for what you will tolerate from your father. Don’t let him control or manipulate you. You should also be aware of how his behavior affects you. If you feel like he’s taking up too much space in your life, set boundaries.
3. Talk to him
It can be difficult to talk to a narcissistic father, but it’s important that you try. You should tell him how his behavior affects you and what you expect from him. You should be clear in your communication and not let yourself be manipulated. If he abuses the knowledge you have given him, you may need to remove yourself from him until you are strong enough to handle it. This leads to point number four…
4. Seek support
It’s important to seek support if you’re having trouble dealing with your father. You can seek support from family and friends or seek professional help. It’s okay to seek help if you need it. There is absolutely no shame in seeking help to deal with a narcissistic father.
5. Remember that it’s his problem, not yours
It’s important to remember that his behavior is his problem, not yours. You should not feel guilty or responsible for his behavior. You should also remember that you cannot change him and that you are not responsible for his happiness.
6. Take a break
It’s okay to take a break from your father if you need to. You should not feel obligated to stay in contact with him if that’s not what you want.
7. Be honest with yourself
Be honest with yourself when considering how you feel about your father. If you can’t handle him, that’s okay. You should not feel obligated to stay in contact with him if that’s not what you want.
8. Remember that you’re not alone.
Many others have experienced the same thing as you. You are not alone in your struggle.